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As parents, we expect our children to listen to us and follow our directions. We are the boss and we expect compliance and no pushback. When we want our children to do something we use many common phrases...

“How many times do I need to tell you?”

“1…2…” (the classic count to 3!)

“Do you want to leave/a timeout/a spanking!?”

“Because I said so!”

“I’m not going to tell you again!”

“You’ll be sorry”

"Don't make me come over there!"

Now, imagine that this isn’t coming out of a parent's mouth, but rather from YOUR boss. What if you’re boss said any of these things to you? How would you feel? How would you react? You would most likely feel underappreciated, vent to your spouse, be miserable on your commute home.

This is how are children are feeling and no wonder they are throwing tantrums, being non-compliant, feeling hurt, and talking back.

What if there’s a better way!? Alternatives we can put into practice today, that can change our relationship with our children. Practical strategies that lower both the parents’ and the child’s frustration, increase positive behaviors, and decrease problem behaviors.

This won't be a quick fix, it will take commitment and consistency! What if there is a way for you to discover the possibility of making yourself into the best “boss” you can be! You deserve it and so do your children.

Stay tuned for tips and strategies to use with your children that are practical and effective...

I recently was talking with a long time friend of mine as she was going through the adoption process. She mentioned all of the hours of parent training and hoops she and her husband needed to jump through to become foster and adoptive parents. It hit me...there are no such requirements placed on biological parents. People are thrust into parenthood most often without any training or experience with children...actually, I've come across quite a few people that DO have experience working with children that struggle with dealing with their children's behavior.

In my field of Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA Therapy) there's so much knowledge about behavior and behavior change. Most of the knowledge is funneled toward helping children on the Autism Spectrum. ABA Therapy helps children with Autism gain functional skills, social skills, and increase/decrease appropriate/inappropriate behaviors.

This knowledge of best practices and strategies should be available to the general public. In this blog I will attempt to disseminate ABA for families of typically developing children. You will hear about strategies that work, do's and don'ts of dealing with children's inappropriate behaviors, and most of all how to build a more positive relationship with your child/children. When both the parent's and the child's frustration level decreases, a new and special bond can develop.

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